Just my thoughts after reading Andrew's blog.
Why do people in perfectly happy relationships cheat on their partner? How could they even consider loving another when they already have it so good?
Someone who is feeling unloved or unappreciated may begin looking outside their marriage for sources of comfort and affirmation. Occasionally, these partners even blame their spouses for their infidelity.
For example , they might say : "Well, if he paid more attention to me, I wouldn't have to cheat," or "If she can't give me the love I need, I have a right to seek it elsewhere." However, if you aren't feeling loved or appreciated in your relationship, you need to take responsibility for those feelings and discover what is causing you feel that way.
Calling them idiots may seem the likely thing to do, but there's more to it than that. Cheating is the symptom, not the cause. Relationships today are based on ownership and possession; partners feeling like they own their spouses and try to control their every move.
What if we all came from a place of unconditional love and acceptance? What if we stopped confusing sex for love. Of course, they ARE NOT the same thing. You can have sex with someone that you do not love and you can love someone that you do not have sex with. Wouldn't you agree?
So if that's true, what is cheating? It's a breaking of trust. While trust is important for a happy relationship, it may not necessarily mean that your partner doesn't love you or that they love another. If you focus on having an open and trusting relationship where there's no fear and no judgment, it's very unlikely that your partner will cheat. Of course you both have to agree to this path. Trusting your partner completely and sharing everything while they don't reciprocate is simply foolish. ( I personally experienced this before and it was not delightful )
My recommendation for ending cheating in a relationship is to talk openly and honestly to one another without anger, fear, or judgment. When a person cheats, they are typically looking for something that they feel is missing in their relationship with their partner, that particular thing that makes them happy.
If you can truly talk to each other about everything, including the fact that your partner is sexually attracted to another person, then you have complete trust in your relationship and the need for cheating disappears.
Inspired by Andrew , thanks bro. Check out teenage love
Not entirely written by me but some professionals thinks alike so their words best explains all my thoughts.
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